Female TESTS Men AREN'T READY For

We’re sitting at the dinner table, having a very playful conversation about what a salad is. Is tomato salad a salad? Chicken salad?

And then she says “hey go get me some more water.”

I look at her with a smirk and say “you’ve got two legs don’t you babe?”

She smiles and says “okay” and gets her water.

After that, she was in her feminine all night. Playful, soft, almost childlike. She totally submitted to me like she never had before.

So, what happened?

And more importantly, why was she happier after I REFUSED her request?

If you want a woman’s heart you need to understand what frame and sh*t tests are. There is an extensive amount of writing on tests, and we will discuss that, but I’m going to add a piece to this that most ignore. The reason WHY she tests. Once you understand this, your understanding of all female tests will change.

Frame: The Most Important Dating Concept You Don’t Understand

Frame is almost the same thing as the kids call aura, but not quite. Aura comes from a man WITH frame, but you can have frame without having an aura. It’s like the chicken and the egg.

Frame is what you have when you have a solid self-concept. You know yourself. This is one of the most important phrases in all of philosophy. It stood above the most important Ancient Greek temple and Drake made a whole song about it.

Knowing yourself means you understand your direction. It means knowing that what you’re doing is right and is best for you. It means orienting your action toward your goal. It means being aligned.

Women are alignment detection machines.

When you have no frame, or a weak one, they smell it like a great white sniffing a drop of surfer’s blood.

They DETECT a weak frame through sh*t tests, or frame tests. Whenever you hear these things in the dating world, they mean the same thing.

Women need to understand if a man’s words and actions are truly aligned with what his claimed frame is.

If a man presents as strong, confident, and has a purpose on the first date, will it be like that on the second date? The third?

Can she trust you to hold frame FOREVER?

She needs to know these things, because she needs to know that you are safe. She needs to know that you can be trusted. Women optimize their environment for trust and safety.

Why?

Just think about this: she is small. She needs protection. She is the bearer of the children. This means she needs stability when she’s under pressure.

But most important, and most people miss this about frame, she needs to know you are a STABLE and MASCULINE presence.

She simply cannot know these things by asking you if you’re safe. By asking if you’re a hard worker. Or by asking you if you’ll hold strong to your opinions even when challenged.

Let me explain.

How FEMALES Test Men RELENTLESSLY (And How To Pass)

The whole system collapses down to three things. Learn these three and every sh*t test you will ever face is a layup.

1. The literal content of her words is camouflage. The response is the data.

She is not looking for a logical response. Women are emotional. They use words as social-emotional perception mechanisms, not tools to explore the world with (more on that here). She’s using her words in this case to detect your emotional response. Do you chimp out? Defend, argue, accommodate, or explain?

Go back to the water scene. “Go get me some more water” is not a request for me to get her water. The real question underneath is: will I do every little thing she asks for, when she could do it perfectly well by herself?

It’s not about the literal content. Think about what her question requires of you. How will it make you look?

Are you a puppy dog who just wants mommy to be happy? Or are you the unmovable rock she knows will withstand the storm?

2. She is scanning for alignment, not agreement.

She is measuring whether the man you are presenting is the man you actually are. Remember, women are alignment detection mechanisms.

Will you stick to your purpose? Are you going to go to the gym? Are you going to stay up late and practice coding? Are you going to read every morning like you said?

She will try to knock you off of your purpose intentionally. She will try to get you to stay home. To not go to work that day. I’m not saying you can’t do it occasionally. In fact sometimes, that’s okay, maybe 5-10 out of every hundred times. You can be spontaneous SOMETIMES. But if you ALWAYS relent to this, the signal is misalignment, not spontaneity. It’s complicated.

The Perfect Response

3. You pass by not moving your center, by not wavering from your position.

Every correct response looks the same. Short. Light. Unbothered. Slightly amused.

You don’t argue. You don’t defend. You don’t grovel. You don’t explain. You don’t move your plans. You don’t move your self-image. You don’t move your opinion.

“Hey go get me some more water.” You’ve got two legs, don’t you babe?

“Can we push to 8?” Let’s stick to 7.

“You’re a weirdo.” I know, it’s part of my charm.

You cannot fake this. If your center actually moves and you cover it with a clever line, the scanner still catches it. The line is a surface thing. She reads deeper than the surface. She reads your body language. You have to genuinely be secure in yourself.

That is the whole game.

Are you aligned?

The more aligned you are, the more your girl will love you.

Neo out.

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