Your Hinge Messages Bore Women To Death

Every couple of weeks or so someone posts their Hinge or Tinder messages with a girl on Twitter, the conversation looks like this:

If you’re doing this you will never get a date from Hinge or Tinder. Ever. Not one.

You have to understand something about women, they are novelty enthusiasts. Women are chaos. Girls just wanna have fun. This ain’t it.

Let’s think about this. How many times has she received a message on Tinder saying “what are you into” or “is your college major fun?”

On a dating app, probably thousands. I’m not exaggerating. That’s the real number.

How many times have you passed by that one billboard on your way to work now? A hundred, two hundred times? Or maybe there is a homeless person at the intersection right before you turn into your work’s parking lot. That billboard? You don’t even really see it anymore, do you? That homeless person? You probably forgot that they existed.

This is what has happened to “what do you do for fun” and “how are you” on dating apps. They are not even background noise, they do not exist.

The woman in this exchange is right. This is anti-game. It is exactly what not to do.

So then, what do you do?

How To Properly Message Women On Dating Apps

I’m not going to soften this, this is hard as fuck.

There are a million ways to do this, but the problem is what Hinge does to women’s minds.

It turns you into a number. It turns you into a piece of her little black mirror that gives her attention. You aren’t yet a person when you’re on her dating app messaging her. You are something she KNOWS she can choose to materialize at any moment, or not to.

Why does this matter?

Normally, you could change course with how you approach a girl in person, and see literally 5x better success than you were before.

On dating apps, your success is only going to increase marginally by comparison. Keep that in mind when applying the following principles. It will be very hard to tell if it’s “working” at first. The way you know it works is that you can do it in person and increase success quite a lot.

Rule Number One: Be Short

Good God man don’t send a paragraph. Think about what this says. Why did you have time to type 50 words? Why do you care this much? This is a random girl on a Hinge. You don’t know if she’s your next wife. Act like it.

Rule Number Two: Be Politely Persistent

The other day I asked a girl, “hey what’s your name,” and then I said “you single.” She said “in the middle of it.” The average guy would take the literal content of that and say oh okay that’s a barrier. I’m out. I didn’t. I said “that’s not no LMAO.” She gave me her number. We are texting.

Ofc they are on a dating app so they are single, but the point is, women will put up resistance to see if you can push through smoothly, sternly, and politely. Another example of this is a girl from yesterday on Hinge. I said “when u free” and she responded “when u free? since ur schedule is so packed.” That’s a small frame test. If you answer her question, you enter her frame and she will not go out with you. I said “no I asked you lol.” She relented.

Politely persist. Push through the frame tests. Get the number. Set the date.

Rule Number Three: Try To Find Something In Her Profile You Can RIFF Off Of

This is VERY important. The key is to NOT do what the guy did above. He used something from her profile but did not RIFF. To riff means to make a joke. Poke fun at her.

I actually once matched with a psychologist and went on several dates with her. When I first messaged her I said “no therapy on the first date, you gotta make it to the third date if you want that.”

The point is, POKE FUN lightly, BANTER. Don’t ask interview questions. A full article explaining banter will be written sometime soon.

Rule Number Four: Close Quick, Do NOT Talk For Days

Everyone is going to tell you to “get to know her” before you go out with her. That’s stupid. The first date is for getting to know her. The approach, or in this case the Hinge/Tinder messages, are for seeing if she has any interest.

If she responds to more than two of your messages, you are in. Close it. Do not waste time. Any more time on the messages and you could talk her out of seeing you. This is a Hinge girl after all and there are thousands.

If you do these things, your success will increase somewhere around 20-50%. You can get more success by making a better profile, because yours probably sucks. I will write an article about that one soon.