When She Tries To Move The Date

If you’re dating a girl and she asks you to move the date from 6pm to 7pm, don’t do it.

You’re going to want to be accommodating. All your life you’ve been told to be easy-going, passive, and to accommodate others.

Don’t, and I’ll tell you exactly why.

This is a frame test, or what dating coaches, red pillers, and the pick up artists often call a “sh*t test.”

The woman is testing if you will back down, if you will be accommodating. This is paradoxical to all of your social training, but you have to trust me here: do not accommodate.

When you move the date, you confirm to the woman in a small way that she can push you around. But why would she even ask such a thing if she didn’t mean it? If she didn’t have anything to do? Remember, a woman’s words almost never mean what the literal content of them says. They carry an emotional meaning. And how you respond to this emotional test is absolutely crucial.

Frame tests are something that have been studied in evolutionary psychology, and one of the biggest reasons why they are such a crucial weapon for women is that they force men to make what is known as a “costly signal.”

The “can we move the date to 7” sh*t test is a perfect example.

Costly Signals

A costly signal is like a peacock’s beautiful tail. They are large and quite difficult to manage. They weigh the peacock down. Smaller males cannot afford to have such a tail that weigh them physically, but the stronger males can.

When a woman asks you to move your date from 6 to 7, or to change places, the easiest possible answer is “of course, see you then.”

Why? It’s the least costly signal of them all. It’s the easiest signal to send. It’s also the one that gives her the ick.

If you do this, it’s over for you. And don’t trust me, take it from OG Dating Coach Corey Wayne:

“Often times women are changing the plans at the last minute, whether you’re picking her up, ‘Oh, let’s meet out,’ or you’re supposed to do something, she’s like, ‘Oh, I got something to do right after. Can we just make this real quick?’ So it’s like trying to test to see if you’re going to allow somebody to waste your time or jerk you around.”

- Corey Wayne, understandingrelationships.com

The hardest possible answer to this sh*t test is to not back down. It’s not to think logically “oh she must have something that came up.” Yes that’s quite possible, but it’s rarer than you think. And even better, the result of you not backing down is the same even IF she actually has something that came up. If she actually had something come up, she will tell you. And, if she likes you, she will profusely apologize. That’s your data.

If she just doesn’t like you and her attraction has fallen too far, she will ditch you with no explanation and never call you again.

It’s hard to believe it’s so simple, but this is just how it works. There are two options when it really comes down to it. I know this not just because of what I’ve read, but because this actually just happened to me! That’s why I am writing about it. Here’s what happened.

My Recent Encounter

I am currently seeing a super hot girl, former D1 athlete. Tight body. Very smart. She definitely has a lot of options, so this is the kind of girl you have to run tight game on, or you’re cooked.

She has sh*t tested me quite a bit. Each time, she becomes visibly more attracted to me. But then, she did the “can we move to 7” bit.

I personally knew exactly what to do, but I still wanted to waver. I wanted to be accommodating. All my social training told me that it’s just an hour. It’s a small inconvenience. After all, she’s gunna spend the night right? What’s an hour?

I said, “Let’s stick to 6. We can reschedule if we need to.”

This is exactly what OG Dating Coach Corey Wayne says to text, word for word.

And what happened?

She rescheduled.

And…

She was 10x more attracted to me on that date. She initiated touch way more. She talked about future plans, which she never had done before. She talked about cooking for me, implying future domesticity.

I’d say that went pretty well.

That being said, what about your situation?

What Could Happen

There are two patterns that emerge from what others and I have observed.

Option One, you hold frame. The conversation looks like this:

Her: hey can we move the date from 6 to 7 and also go skydiving instead?

You: Let’s stick to 6. If we need to, we can reschedule.

Her: Okay nvm actually I can make it haha (or she reschedules).

Then, on that date she is more touchy than she was before. She starts texting you more, and as long as you hold frame forever after that, you’re good.

Option two, you lose frame. The conversation looks like this:

Her: hey can we move the date from 6 to 7 and also go skydiving instead?

You: Sure whatever works for you! (Desperate)

Her: Ok.

Then either you go on the date and she’s cold and pulls away from you after the date, or she just ghosts you altogether.

Don’t Get Mad

Many men have asked me why they should care about these tests. Shouldn’t girls just stop testing? That question misunderstands what these tests are fundamentally. They are mostly unconscious. Evolutionary programs are much stronger than our rational minds, and they exist for a reason.

Many men get mad at these tests, but remember, the nature of a woman is to function as the evolutionary filter. She does not speak philosophical truth. She speaks natures truth.

Learn nature’s truths, and get the woman of your dreams.

Or die.

Neo Out.

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